Chowing down

This was a picture of our visit to Alabama. We were eating cajun style shrimp, corn, and potatoes. The birthmother is on the left in black her dad is at the head of the table and her mom is sitting by Paul. This is going to be a long month. I'm glad that we have friends praying us. Thank you! It means a lot.

The Visit

We drove to Alabama on Friday. We had dinner with the birthmother and the birthgrandmother and after dinner they showed us where the hospital was. The next day they invited us to their house. We stayed from 3 until 10:30. We had a really good visit. It was as if we had known them our entire lives; as if they were already family. By the end of the visit, they said that we would be perfect parents for the baby. They said that we seemed like part of the family. The birthgrandmother said that it will be like one of their kids having a baby and then moving away. She told us that she wanted to make sure that the house was really clean so we would would to come back and visit with the baby. They were asking us what names we were thinking about for the baby and they asked if our family was excited about everything. Then, when we were driving home today they called just to see where we were and to tell us again that they enjoyed our visit. They are such sweet people. I think they are going to call the adoption agency tomorrow to let them know that they want to "match" with us. I hope everyone has a good week. I will keep you posted......

Good News!

I talked with our adoption agency today and they told me that the birth mother can place a child without the birthfathers consent. They are not married and he has not given her any money throughout the pregnancy. He can fight it, but he would have to come to North Carolina all the way from Alabama and get a lawyer here. I don't really see a drug dealer doing that. Keep on praying!!!

A bump in the road

Well, the birthmother's mom called tonight and said that the birthfather decided that he wanted to keep the baby. I guess he is a drug dealer and his parents even do drugs. As she was telling me all of this, I could hear the birthmother crying in the background. They said that they are going to go talk to him tomorrow about open adoption and pray that he will change his mind. In the beginning, he agreed to sign over his rights. I don't know what changed his mind. Please keep us in your prayers.

Visit moved to next weekend

I got an e-mail from the birthmothers mom today. She said that she wants us to wait and come down next weekend. She told us that she is embarrased of her home and her husband is going to be in town this weekend and she wants him to do some stuff around the house before we come. She said that the birthmom is going back to the doctor on July 23 and they are going to talk to the doctor about how the she could stay on a another floor in the hospital, so she won't be on the same floor as the baby. She is also going to talk with him about how we can have a room in the hospital, so we can stay with the baby. The adoption agency contacted them yesterday because they wanted a proof of pregnancy. The birthmother sent it right away to them later in the afternoon. I like the way that they are on top of things. I guess the time is getting near, so I guess they have to be.

The Phone Call

So, we talked with the birthmother and her mom today. The BM (birthmother) wasn't home at the time, so we talked with her mom. We talked with her mom for about 45 minutes. Paul and I both talked with her. The Mom said the that the BM told her that she didn't ever want to have children and she would rather give her baby up for adoption than to get an abortion. We had a great conversation with the mom. When the BM got home I started talking with her and it was really hard....I would try to start a conversation and it didn't flow very well. I was really nervous. She told me that she didn't like to talk on the phone and she wasn't good at small talk. Paul also tried to talk with her, but that didn't last long either. Her mom wanted us to come to Alabama next weekend. She said that she would cook us dinner and that she was excited to get to see us. When I asked the BM about next weekend she sounded like she really wanted us to come. Maybe, it will go better with the BM in person. I hope that they liked us....

Love this poem

There Is An Empty Room by Stephanie Garcia
There is an empty room
In which no child sleeps
Just a rocking chair, a teddy bear,
The baby clothes they keep

It is a quiet room
With everything in place,
But no happy sighns or lullabies,
No child in their embrace

There is an empty crib
In the corner, tucked away;
The gentle light of the moon shines bright
As they kneel by the crib to pray.

"These are our empty arms, We hold them
out to you. Help us stay close to Your way,
As this valley we walk through.

Remove all bitter thoughts, Your will is what we seek.
Dry our tears and calm our fears, lift us up, for we are weak."

There is an empty room
In which no child sleeps.
But they know the love of a Father above,
And His promises He keeps.

Our first contact.

Hey everyone! We thought that we would start a blog to let everyone know what is going on in our adoption journey.

We got a contact from a birth mother in Alabama. She is 22 years old. She has contacted us twice by e-mail and has contacted our adoption agency about us. She told the adoption agency that she has chosen us and did not want to receive anymore birth mother letters from any other couples. She is scheduled for a C-section on Aug 28! Wow! We actually just found that out today. Kinda crazy!! This is our first contact, so we are trying not to get our hopes up. She wants us to come see her in Alabama in the next couple of weeks since she is due so soon. Anyway, please keep us in your thoughts and prayers and I will keep everyone posted.

Paul and Tracey